Quilting for Healing
Warning: this blog post contains profanity and discusses serious topics such as death by shooting and mental health crises. Please read at your own discretion.
Marilyn Farquhar, from Ontario, Canada, is a member of the HQ Quilt Your Desire Inspiration Squad. Sadly, in late 2019 and early 2020 Marilyn lost her husband and father to cancer, then her brother, in a tragic shooting by police during a mental health crisis. In August 2020 Marilyn commenced a series of grief quilts, using quilting for healing to help her through the grieving process.
Quilting can be therapy in many ways and many quilters use quilting as a way to cope with difficult times in their lives. In August 2020 Marilyn commenced a series of grief quilts entitled Kairos – An Opportune Time for Action. She has completed 3 quilts.
His Call For Help
His Call for Help – representing despair
Photo Credit The Abbotsford News
Marilyn’s artist statement:
On September 10, 2019, Barry shared his despair with me. We sat on my back deck—he wore my pink jacket and smoked a joint while crying shamelessly. He asked for his miracle—he pleaded for his miracle! He stated “I’m such a piece of shit.” “I’ve only caused heartache and sorrow.” “The pain in my brain is unacceptable.” I heard him, but I did not hear him! I believed my strong brother would navigate his way through his struggles—I was wrong! I am sharing this very personal story in the hopes that others, faced with this situation, will be able to recognize despair in loved ones during their darkest hours. Then find a way to get them help.
One Bullet
One Bullet – representing grief and loss Photo Credit Praveenraju909
Marilyn’s artist statement:
He asked to be shot six times—it only took one bullet to end his life. There are many victims—not just Barry. His friends, family, colleagues, and society have all been impacted by the loss of Barry. Barry was a well known advocate for the homeless and marginalized. The transformative effect of his work to change laws that impact the homeless will continue to be felt in the City of Abbotsford, BC, as well as across Canada. Survivors left behind, despair at his loss, as much for a vital life cut short, as for the unnecessary circumstances of his death.
May Your Spirit Soar
May Your Spirit Soar – representing hope
Photo Credit Praveenraju909
Marilyn’s artist statement:
Barry’s spirit is now released from his earthly body—free to soar like the eagles. My wish for all those impacted by poor mental health, grief, and the excessive use of force by police is that they will find within themselves the freedom to soar. May all the officers involved in this incident find peace. If we are to be considered a civilized society, we need to find a better way of helping our fellow man. This is the only way to pave the way to a more promising future we all deserve.
Quilting for Healing
Marilyn’s goal in creating these quilts was not only to grieve her brother’s death and to heal herself, but also to make Barry’s life meaningful. She hopes these quilts will cause people pause and consider, and to talk about mental health, grief and changes in policing.
There is a documentary showing some of Marilyn’s process of making these quilts as well as more of the tragic story of her brother’s death.
When the Ontario and British Columbia travel restrictions are lifted, Marilyn will be taking the quilts across Canada. Her quilts will be on exhibit at various venues.
Please note: the series on free-motion quilting will resume next week.
